Fifteen Assumptions That Might Be Useful To Make

7 Mar

1. Assume that you are loved.

2. Assume that those who love you find some kind of value in you and the things you do.

3. Assume, however, that you don’t need to be valuable in order to be worthy of love.

4. Assume that there is no one out there keeping a tally of all of your failings, ready to throw it in your face when you’re either feeling too good or too awful about yourself.

5. Assume that if anyone actually is keeping a tally of all your failings, that act says more about them than it does about you.

6. Assume that you can’t make all of the people happy all of the time; maybe not even some of the people some of the time.

7. Assume that you will, over the course of your life, sometimes anger or disappoint the people you love.

8. Assume that when this happens, it isn’t the end of the world, even if that’s what it feels like.

9. Assume that there is never an end to learning, or growing, or discovering.

10. Assume that you will always find a way out, even when all the doors slam shut and everything feels impossible.

11. Assume that sometimes earnestness and optimism can trump irony and cynicism.

12. Assume that it’s possible to recapture the way you felt when you were young, how the perfect clockwork mechanism of the universe used to leave you breathless and giddy with wonder.

13. Assume that there will always be more stories to tell, or at the very least new ways of reinterpreting old fables.

14. Assume that nothing is permanent, that someday even the sun will disappear; remember that everything we see and touch and taste is made of stars that grew and pulsed and died long before this planet ever existed.

15. Assume that you are under some kind of obligation to make the world a better place.

earth_moon

261 Responses to “Fifteen Assumptions That Might Be Useful To Make”

  1. ourjourneytothesea March 11, 2013 at 9:59 am #

    Great advice

  2. dearjuliet16 March 11, 2013 at 10:10 am #

    love it 🙂

  3. Run to Your Life March 11, 2013 at 10:40 am #

    Reblogged this on Run to Your Life Coaching.

  4. no step too loose March 11, 2013 at 11:03 am #

    Great assumptions 😉

  5. Manasa Manjunath March 11, 2013 at 11:43 am #

    I guess we all need these as a printed manual on how to live life. Very well put.
    Congratulations on being on freshly pressed!

  6. akosicla March 11, 2013 at 12:02 pm #

    Very good assumptions indeed! I like assumption number 10. 🙂

  7. Sweet Thing March 11, 2013 at 1:18 pm #

    Thank you for those. Very inspiring, and particularly helpful for me at this point in my life. x

  8. Riyad Almubarak March 11, 2013 at 1:51 pm #

    I really loved these 15 assumptions & in my own point of view we are pretty able to convince ourselves with positive assumptions as long as we could generate negative ones & persuade our subconscious mind with. So why not to do right act & assume positively!

  9. brothermarcus19 March 11, 2013 at 2:13 pm #

    Reblogged this on marcusshares and commented:
    Let’s live while we have life in our bodies family! Have a great week!
    http://www.blackmarriageretreat.org

  10. Amit Shetty March 11, 2013 at 2:54 pm #

    I’m assuming this post is awesome.

  11. vjstracener March 11, 2013 at 3:01 pm #

    Those are amazing thoughts for this dreary Monday. Thanks for posting them.

  12. OneWeekToCrazy March 11, 2013 at 3:08 pm #

    I love this! What a great way to start the day 🙂

    Cheers,
    Courtney
    http://www.oneweektocrazy.com

  13. Cicci March 11, 2013 at 3:39 pm #

    That was really a great post, thank you!

  14. marymary March 11, 2013 at 4:29 pm #

    Awesome post! Assumptions definitely don’t have to always be negative : ).

    • bellejarblog March 16, 2013 at 4:30 pm #

      Sometimes assuming the best is what gets you through the night 🙂

  15. sonas8 March 11, 2013 at 5:21 pm #

    Reblogged this on sonas8.

  16. lexiesnana March 11, 2013 at 5:38 pm #

    How I loved this post.It is easy to assume bad but not so easy for me to assume good.I will carry this with me today.Thank you

    • bellejarblog March 16, 2013 at 4:31 pm #

      Thank you! And agreed – it’s easy to assume the worst. Stay strong ❤

  17. naayea March 11, 2013 at 5:41 pm #

    If I could only follow those assumptions…. Especially numero 6… 🙂 Much love!

    • bellejarblog March 16, 2013 at 4:32 pm #

      Thank you, much love to you, too! I find 6 through 8 the hardest for me 🙂

  18. Kristyn March 11, 2013 at 5:43 pm #

    I tend to look at everything in a cynical way, so thank you for reminding me that sometimes it’s better to be optimistic about life. You’ve made my day.

  19. no step too loose March 11, 2013 at 5:50 pm #

    Reblogged this on no step too loose and commented:
    let’s assume it’s as easy as this!

  20. tolego March 11, 2013 at 7:20 pm #

    Thank you for this post. It is heartwarming and true and just what I needed.

    • bellejarblog March 16, 2013 at 4:34 pm #

      Thanks so much! I wrote it as a reminder to myself for when things get hard, and I’m touched by how many people see themselves in it too 🙂

  21. Deanna Cheng March 11, 2013 at 8:52 pm #

    Beautiful assumptions. xo

  22. Girlbehindthescissors March 11, 2013 at 9:57 pm #

    Perfect bed time reading 🙂

  23. juggernaut91 March 11, 2013 at 10:31 pm #

    I’ll be honest, I was hoping these would be more debatable

  24. Naomi March 11, 2013 at 11:42 pm #

    This is a worldview to aspire to, and a beautifully written one at that. And I love the thought that there are always more stories to tell. Thank you for this post,

    • TomBoy March 12, 2013 at 11:24 am #

      I have to join all these others and express gratitude for this post. I appreciate the truths that you’ve shared, agree with them all, and found three just what I’ve been writing about for months. So, thanks.

      • bellejarblog March 16, 2013 at 4:38 pm #

        Thank you! Three is a tough one, especially when you’re feeling down on yourself ❤

      • TomBoy March 16, 2013 at 6:02 pm #

        Indeed! Given that I just did that for a year, many of the lessons yielded in this post were what I was lead to. Thanks again!

    • bellejarblog March 16, 2013 at 4:37 pm #

      I love the thought that there are more stories to tell, too. As a writer and an avid reader, it’s something that I constantly have to remind myself of.

  25. sassysicilian March 11, 2013 at 11:55 pm #

    I’m not exactly sure how I stumbled across your blog – but I’m going to ‘assume’ I was supposed to because it really hit home, especially #10. Thank you.

  26. latenightrationale March 12, 2013 at 2:10 am #

    Reblogged this on latenightrationale.

  27. gardnerpam6 March 12, 2013 at 2:35 am #

    love your “assumes”, so now I am following your blog!

  28. alice-in-wonder March 12, 2013 at 5:40 am #

    I love your post. It has common sense goodness, but the kind which most of us forget to follow most of the days. And it is just thepick me up I need on a tuesday morning when the week hasnt started great.

    And just for that dose of pick me up, love and hugs to you.

    • bellejarblog March 16, 2013 at 4:43 pm #

      I’m so glad that it helped give you a pick me up. Thanks for the love & hugs & the kind comment ❤

  29. June March 12, 2013 at 9:52 am #

    1. Assume that you are loved.
    2. Assume that those who love you find some kind of value in you and the things you do.

    These are the two I need right now. The two I have trouble believing, trouble remembering.

    How nice to think we are loved by someone. How nice to think someone values what I do.

    Thank you for the reminder. ❤

    • bellejarblog March 16, 2013 at 4:58 pm #

      Someone, many someones, DO love you, even when you can’t see or feel it. And there is always someone who finds value in what you do, even if they don’t tell you this.

  30. Andrew Toynbee March 12, 2013 at 10:48 am #

    Reblogged this on Andrew Toynbee's very own Blog and commented:
    Food for thought indeed – and see how many apply to our particular craft…

  31. fathiahazmi March 12, 2013 at 12:23 pm #

    Reblogged this on fathiahazmi and commented:
    I like assumption number 9.

  32. lanrehussain March 12, 2013 at 1:31 pm #

    Reblogged this on lanrehussain.

  33. scribbleofhappygoluckygal March 12, 2013 at 1:50 pm #

    Reblogged this on Scribble Of A Happy Go Lucky Gal and commented:
    An aewsome post worth reading 🙂

  34. A. Mittal March 12, 2013 at 4:33 pm #

    I was feeling low today..after reading this totally inspired 🙂 thanks

  35. happyswede March 12, 2013 at 5:39 pm #

    Great post!

  36. jennifermaki March 12, 2013 at 7:28 pm #

    Reblogged this on LifeSchool Inc. and commented:
    This is just too simple, superb and subtly peace-sparking not to reblog.
    I’ve never reblogged someone’s post before, but this reached out and gripped me full.

    As LifeSchooler’s our commitment to igniting, inspiring and encouraging young minds is one that can feel, in moments, like we have grasped the helm of a ship tossing and turning in a sea we never quite believed we’d need to navigate to distant shores. Parenting, mentoring, leading from within with integrity requires tools and stamina I think we understood in theory, but that leave us unrecognizable even to ourselves in the mirror of our honesty.
    We must live and lead believing we can find our way to lands envisioned, by the stars of our making and by gosh or by golly, what a world it can be when we learn to Assume greatness is ours by design and creation.

    I wholeheartedly THANK The Belle Jar for this unassuming compass, empowering us to grasp the wheel full, upholding our grand and irrefutable responsibility to make this world a better place where others can assume More in explorations yet to come.

    In the spirit of your adventure yet to be…
    I Assume You’ll Take the Helm with Heart:)
    jenni

  37. kaseyy8 March 12, 2013 at 8:12 pm #

    Wonderful assumptions. How did I find it? Reminds me of something somebody once said (or sang): “you might not get what you want, but you get what you need”.

  38. harulawordsthatserve March 12, 2013 at 8:55 pm #

    Loved this, especially numbers 11 and 15. Thanks for sharing, very inspiring:-)

  39. Yeahthtsme March 12, 2013 at 9:14 pm #

    Congrats! A really inspiring post just what I needed 🙂

  40. Singularity_K March 12, 2013 at 10:05 pm #

    Reblogged this on Singularity_K.

  41. Singularity_K March 12, 2013 at 10:05 pm #

    i totally relate to assumption number 15.

  42. Elisha March 12, 2013 at 11:40 pm #

    Reblogged this on ProvocativelE and commented:
    A truly timely post. Always assume you are meant to be magnificent.

  43. Elisha March 12, 2013 at 11:41 pm #

    A truly timely post. Always assume you are meant to be magnificent.

  44. bigpictureone March 13, 2013 at 12:24 am #

    Thanks for the inspiring selection of assumptions and “The Earth Seen From The Moon” illustration, is a perfect image for your post.

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